Daniel Rey Wolfe – “The only fight I ever lost was the one to myself”
May 9, 2014 · 1 min read


So much that could be unpacked from this disturbing story of Daniel Rey Wolfe, a former Marine whose suicide was documented by his posts on Facebook. I’ll write a longer response in the coming weeks, but I needed to get this out now. I found the article this morning and couldn’t move from my chair.
When you read about the problems at the VA, think about this. When you read about the horrors of war, the millions of dollars and months of training we use to train our young men and women to “compartmentalize” in combat, then the failure of time, money, and training we give them to learn to come home – think about this.
We can do something. Thankfully, this summer I’m doing workshops and training across the country on how to better respond to our veterans. But I need your help. Every place I speak is usually because of the effort of one or two committed people. It might be a college, a church, a conference, or a concerned organization – whatever – at each talk and workshop we save lives, lives like this young man. We have the e-mails and letters to prove it. Find a way to help me come to your community and we’ll make an impact. Lost lives like Daniels send me into a rage. WE can do something about it.
Read this. It’s disturbing, but read it. Share it. Facebook, the internet, TV, has made life a big reality show. But “war” and the struggles of our veterans aren’t a show, and neither is this tragic story. Don’t let the death of Daniel Rey Wolfe be in vain.
God rest your soul Daniel Rey Wolfe. I wish I could have known you.
Silouan Green
Former US Marine officer, jet crash survivor, speaker, trainer and author. He works with leaders, first responders, military units and teams carrying real responsibility — and writes here about the life behind that work. Read his story.
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